"Are you ready for a relationship?"

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I've never been into a relationship before. After 20 odd years of my life, seeing my longtime friends getting attached one by one, I start to wonder whether there's anything wrong with me. We are at the same stage of life, why ain't I getting into a blissful relationship like them?

I love my friends a lot. Sometimes I seem to find myself loving my friends the way people would to a lover. 

I can skip lessons and skip meals to do up a birthday video for my uni friends; 

I readily foot the bill for my old school friends 'cause it's been very long since we last met, despite me not drawing any income; 

I brought my friend to my room and surprised him with a watch placed nicely beside a lit-up candle; 

I beat the rain just to get roses for my friend who put up a dance performance in school.

And the list goes on.

I'm not here to boast about what I did for my friends. I stopped weighing the things I do for my friends vs what they do for me a long while back. True friendships are never calculative, only understanding coupled with forgiving.

There was a period of time where I really doubt myself, where there is anything I failed to do to bring myself to that special place called love with someone called my lover.

I doubt myself to tears. I readily engulf those moments of puzzledness. I let tears flow, 'cause Mitch Albom ever taught me not to force back tears. Don't be afraid to feel sad or cry. Cry it all out. Feel that moment. Once you feel comfortable, brazen up and move on. These arent the exact words, but that's how I fondly remember the teachings from "Tuesdays with Morrie".

I moved on, I move on with amazing speed that sometimes I surprise myself. I continue to spend time doing the things I like - reading books, writing Chinese articles, learning French, taking up biking courses, drafting up my grand plans for my graduation plans. I run every now and then, hit the gym sometimes, read the newspapers and occasionally when I come across feature articles such as xxxxxxxxxx loving her DJ career, I get inspired! I kinda like hostings too. I love travelling. Maybe I could do a travel blog. Or Vlog. My friends encouraged me "yea i think your personality really foot the bill"! I get inspirations everyday.

I love myself. More than anyone else. I'm responsible for my own happiness so I'm going to chart it out by taking small steps towards my dreams, my aspirations. 

I love getting my friends out for gatherings over dinner or coffee or some drinks and get rowdy and raunchy once in a while. But when I'm not with them, I enjoy my own company with a self-development book or novel like Time Traveller's Wife, seated at the balcony at my home.

I'm at the stage where I'm perfectly fine by myself and I don't think I need a relationship. In fact, I told myself i might not even want to get into a relationship. 'Cause there's so much I want for myself and I want to share my joy with not just one person, but many many people around me!

I'm content with what I am at the moment, and just today, I got curious about the whole relationship notion again (it's hard not to when you always see couples holding hands on the streets. I feel really happy for them too). So I googled "how do you know when you are ready for love" and this amazing article basically describes my current state with simple and memorable sentences quoted from experts:

(extracted from: http://shymagazine.com/shy/25-signs-youre-ready-for-a-relationship.html )

25 Signs You’re Ready For A Relationship

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THE FIRST AND MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP YOU’LL EVER HAVE THROUGHOUT LIFE IS WITH YOURSELF.

| by Tango |

How you feel about and care for your own mind, body and spirit sets the stage for all relationships outside yourself—with your partner, family, friends and co-workers. From psychological, spiritual and practical perspectives, it’s pretty clear that if you don’t love yourself, it’s in turn harder to give and receive love.

We asked the Tango Experts to clue us into the signs, attitudes, beliefs and behaviors that reveal someone loves himself or herself enough to sustain a relationship. The point is not that you need to fulfill all the points on this list (no one is that perfect!), but that you can use this list to inspire you and the ones you love to increase love from the place where it starts—within.

Here are 25 signs you’re ready to share and accept love:

1. You attract a like-minded partner. When you’re in the energy of self love and acceptance, it’s easy to magnetically attract a like-minded partner who not only loves himself/herself but is available, interested, and ready for healthy, happy, whole love.
- Lisa Steadman

2. You complete yourself. You know you are ready for a relationship when you don’t need a relationship to feel happy and worthy, when you want a relationship to share your love rather than to get love, when loving yourself and sharing your love is more important to you than having control over getting love. When you want a relationship to deepen your growth rather than to fill your emptiness, you are ready.
- Margaret Paul

3. You won’t settle for conditional love. Men and women are ready for love when they realize they deserve to receive unconditional love from a partner.
- Nicole Johnson

4. There’s nothing “wrong” with you. The only person who can complete you is you. The way to do that is to realize that there is nothing wrong with you; you are not broken, you don’t need to be fixed. The truth of love is found in self-acceptance, and in shining the light of love on those dark places inside of us.
- Matthew & Orna Walters

5. You don’t seek constant distraction. You’re not afraid to be alone—and in silence, even. You like spending time alone and don’t need the television to be on or the phone to be glued to your head. You can be with just yourself.
- Christine Arylo

6. You’re not waiting for someone else to “save” you. One is ready to manifest healthy, lasting love when they truly abandon the wish that another can “save” or “heal” them. Self acceptance and self love are markers that one is fully ready for intimacy. This state of being allows one to be open to both giving and receiving love in a pure, authentic way—unburdened by notions of healing wounds from the past.
- Hillary Goldsher

7. You honor your bigger “Self.” When you understand who you are—as a human, in relation to God or your spirituality—and when you are able to consider the “other” without compromising or obsessing about “me,” you are setting yourself up to live a healthy, beautiful relationship.
- Christopher L. Smith

8. You’ve tossed your list. I know my clients are ready for love when they don’t come to a session with a ridged set of expectations and a laundry list of must-haves and deal breakers. They simply want to find someone wonderful to love and share their life with.
- Julianne Cantarella, MSW, LSW

9. You’re OK being single. If you can say “I am OK without a relationship,” then you’re ready for one! You’re OK being single—not in a resigned or defeated way. It’s more about one have a deep knowing of who you are, your purpose and that while you desire love, you won’t allow yourself to be miserable while you’re single.
- Alanna Levenson

10. You’ve called off the search. The old adage is true: the person who is most ready for love is she who has stopped actively pursuing it. Instead, she has been concentrating on developing her own skills, passions, and happiness. A confident, grounded and interesting person is extremely appealing.
- Laurel A. Fay

11. A relationship is a want, not a need. I realize someone is ready for love when they want it but don’t need it. That’s the absolute best place to be: wanting a relationship, believing it would be great, but not needing it for your happiness. Per the point above, being truly happy without it is often the fastest way to bring it about.
- Amy Johnson

12. You smile a lot. Notice the next time you see your reflection. No matter what you might be wearing or if it is a good hair day or not, is the reflection you catch a glimpse of is one that makes you smile? When you catch yourself smiling more than making comment, excuse or judgment, then you know you accept yourself unconditionally—and are ready to do the same for another, too.
- Karen Kleinwort

13. You own your sexual energy. You know that you’re a vibrational match for your real-deal Beloved when you move through your day with access to your own orgasmic energy, whether or not you have a partner. You are sourcing it from within. Yes, the Beloved will be irresistibly attracted to your beauty, fragrance and nectar but you are the magnificent blossom.
- Lisa Schrader

14. You’re over your last relationship. Because I work with people primarily after painful breakups, I look for signs that anger and resentment are gone and that they have forgiven not only their ex-partner, but themselves. To be angry at yourself is a clear sign that you are not ready to move forward. If you cannot accept where you are and who you are right now, then it’s time to make a change. You will know that you are ready to go out there and date again when you have given up your “story” and can think about your ex with neutrality, compassion, and understanding.
- Lori Rubenstein

15. You’re willing to take a risk. I find that a person who is ready for true intimacy is aware of the risks and uncertainty that comes with falling in love. She knows that the relationship will grow and evolve to something wonderful—or it won’t. Either way, this person understands she will be better for it since the love and support she has for herself will always be there.
- Bob Connolly

16. You have empathy. One quality I work hard to promote in patients looking to find and/or sustain a loving relationship is empathy. Once a person can see beyond her desires and needs to what it will take to make her partner happy, she is well on her way to going from “me” to “we.”
- Sherry Amatenstein

17. You’re self-confident. Self-confidence is the key to knowing that you’re ready for love (it’s also the most powerful aphrodisiac). When you take pride in yourself and you are clear about your own worth—that is when you’ll be able to attract someone who honors you and himself in a healthy relationship.
- Shoshana Bennett

18. You feel whole. If you are looking for your partner to fill an emptiness within yourself, you will always remain unsatisfied. True love is all about accepting both your partner and yourself wholeheartedly. Dating is about finding your complementary match—not your other half.
- Sara Sharnoff

19. You’re open-minded. You know you’re ready when you can go off your dating script and discovering a romantic interest as though you were visiting an exotic country for the first time. Throw away your checklist, let yourself be in the moment and open up to the joys and challenges a relationship brings.
- Jean Fitzpatrick

20. Fear doesn’t own you. One sign that tells me you are ready for love is when you show courage. When you are open to taking emotional risk, including accepting personal responsibility, love is in your future.
- Bobbi Palmer

21. You build memories, not walls. I know someone is ready for love when they incorporate their match into their life after a few dates, rather than compartmentalizing dating activities. Building memories, not walls, shows long-term potential.
- Laurie Davis

22. You are not a puppet. The one sign that tells me a person is ready for a healthy relationship is when he or she takes a stand for what she wants in a relationship—without being attached to the other person’s response. When a client tells me she has spoken a phrase similar to “that doesn’t work for me” to someone they are attracted to, I know they are ready for a new and wonderful relationship experience.
- Kat Knecht

23. You accept change and are ready to grow. You are “ready” for love when you accept yourself for who you are, right now, today, but are still committed to exploring the yet *undiscovered growth* of yourself individually and in a relationship.
- Megan Fleming

24. You know your turn-ons. When you know what turns you on, what brings you pleasure and you aren’t afraid to go after it, it’s a good sign you’re ready to share love with someone else. The key to this is honoring that you are deserving of pleasure whether you are with someone or not and recognizing that all types of sensual pleasure—the foods you eat, the smells around you, a cool shower on a hot day—keep you vibrant and alive.
- Melissa Fritchle

25. You’re comfortable in your own skin. Embracing yourself inside and out is a sign you’re reading to fully embrace another.
- Pamela Madsen

The common theme in all our Experts advice seems to be: find your own bliss and then share it with another! Take action and do whatever it takes to be happy in your own skin, recognizing this is a lifelong journey. In turn, your relationships will blossom. If you’d like advice on how to take those first steps, just reach out to any of these great experts to create the path to your best love life!

- See more at: http://shymagazine.com/shy/25-signs-youre-ready-for-a-relationship.html#sthash.pe2ieCik.dpuf

And I'm glad for who I am right now =]

自己 YOLO

You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.

某些时刻，当你在过你自己的生活，偶然碰到一句话，看见路边的一件事，想起一段往事，交到一位新朋友，你心血来潮头顶亮灯想要干一件事儿。。。脑海里的思绪层层迭起，加上自己埋在心里深处的那点冒险火苗在默默推动你，哪怕它是那么一丁点隐隐若现飘忽不定的火苗。。。它就是不愿熄灭，你就是想愤然地抛开一切大刀阔斧作出异于你本人常规的那件冒险行动。

可是你犹豫。不晓得为什么，就是不敢。

这时，有个叫做best friend的人怂恿你。你不甘示弱。and the rest is history.

有best friend 真好。没有best friend 也还好。因为还有自己。人都是孤独。若要仰赖别人才敢放手一博的话，不知到要等到多少批牛儿们夕阳归笼才能见证自己的YOLO时刻。

感激的话不能等

所以我破戒，在100天还未满前上了Facebook登了这则文章。

这个星期下来，收到了告别礼物和信封，因为毕业将至。

我室友J是天生乐天派，连简讯程序上的代号都写happy_boi。住在一起两年了，只有到了最后这个学期感情才开始熟络起来。他的课业比我繁重，正修读七门课，但每天早上还是拨出时间和我吃早餐。偶尔逢周末甚至周日的时候，我也会收到他的简讯问候，彼此都会传简讯聊起来且互相免励。他超爱发简讯的。经过他房间时，时常看到他聚精会神按着手机屏幕。我常笑他在发爱昧简讯给女生。如今正直考试季节，他知道来临一周将忙得不可开交恐怕没时间陪我们，所以安排在拜五午饭时间交给我信封。如此有心思的朋友在令我感动之余也让我就他对友谊的重视油然起敬。

友情难能可贵就在于在各自过着自己生活时，会花心思互相祝福，互相抽空陪陪对方。

到了大四我没有停下脚步，仍然活跃于学院的校内社区活动。我有幸和满怀热情的S合作设计一项义工管理课程。合作过程我们相互分享的知识，互相碰撞的新点子和闲聊的话题都令我相当回味。课程完毕后，总算做出点成绩，彼此高兴不已。有时过于专注终点成绩的意图容易让自己流失过程学习的机会，而尝试注意学习过程的项目有时却不敢想象是否能闯出一点成绩给大家看。我们合作做出的课程刚好两者都兼顾到，因此特别欣慰。S是我们小组的组长，在上星期结业聚会的时候，出乎预料准备了一些小礼物送我。她说打听了我爱旅游，也比较偏好使用物（摆美物品我也挺会欣赏的），所以送上了旅人记事簿(Traveller's Notebook)纪念五周年的邮票帖纸、纸质相框、和泰迪熊一只。我好久从来没收到别人送我的泰迪熊了。小时候有羡慕朋友收到的泰迪熊，因为放在房间的泰迪熊就好比能够分享你快乐伤心事的小、小朋友；长大后交了泰迪熊为友也不迟！也当然不忘组长和队友亲笔写下的信封，读了过后自然自然信心大增（哈哈）更爱自己了！

友情难能可贵的价值在于让努力奋斗变得无价。

感激词写到这，我想起了几个星期前落幕的戏剧演出。我从2012年就结交了一群朋友，当时是为即将兴建起的学院殿下校风基础而凑在一起的。我们一起设立的学生委员会在新一批同学入学后务必得通过民主投票重新选委。我落选了，但接下来的两年我们都时常抽空出来吃饭、夜宵、到马国乐高主题公园玩耍、新年期间也一起捞鱼生。大家的感情都蛮tight的。

我演出的那几天不巧大家都没空出席。第一晚演出结束后，正当我正准备休息，这群同学们却意外出现在我房间外，我几乎欣喜若狂。大家那么忙，虽然没空支持我演出，却还很花心思的给予精神上的支持。当中的包还在下班后匆匆赶过来，让我感动得给每个人一个热情的拥抱。有没有到场支持已经不重要了，重要是我只到这群朋友深刻了解到戏剧是我很重视的热忱，我的梦想，所以送上“明日之星”的巧克力。他们太有心思了。。。=]

当然，图片里的菊花，是爪吗童鞋们为即将毕业的“老人”而准备的。谢谢爪吗，让我在毕业之前收到毕生以来第一束花（而且还是菊花~）。

友情难能可贵的在于它能为你的个人梦想插上翅膀，在追梦的道路上洒花、放烟火。梦想的众乐乐是继续追梦的强大推动力。

我的大学四年里能记得多少课堂上教的知识，我还真不清楚。我最清楚的是，我会好好珍惜在校园里结交的好朋友。没有了他们，我无法骄傲的回头欣赏着我在国大里发光发热的日子。感激所有珍惜我的朋友，毕业后请保持维系，我会像你们一样，多多花心思，保持友情树常青地茁壮成长。

好了，就此再度退出Facebook。祝大家学业有成、考试顺利！

- 翱翔 2014

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I can't wait to say thanks to some of my friends in NUS. So I decided it's worth the break in my self-ban from Facebook.















I got to know Joshua for two years and it is only until this semester that we got a lot closer. He often jio-ed me out for breakfast and CAPT and I really appreciate that despite his crazy schedule of 7 modules. Sometimes he will send me random messages during the week or weekends just to ask how's my catastrophic FYP is. And we'll spur each other on with simple encouragement words! He loves texting, I often wonder how many girls he is texting when he is alone in the room =P

Just last week, he knew that he's gonna be busy this week so he arrange a lunch meetup with me to pass me a personal letter, saying how he appreciate the time we spent together over past 2 years in CAPT. So thoughtful right =P Ah...I always love handwritten letter. So really thanks Joshua =]

But yea! I know all of us have a busy lucy life to lead, so I really appreciate friends who make a conscious effort to spend quality time with another =D



We had a ACE Internal Committee retreat last week and we shared some personal reflections on our takeaways from the committee and what we wished to see. Yea, simple and sincere personal sharings among each other - very Stella-style. haha. One of my most memorable days in this final semester is really the period when I did the Volunteer Management Workshop with Stella. We learnt a lot from each other and our ideas are always bouncing off each other with such excitements! Sometimes, in university, we focus too much on the end-product and we neglect the learning process; other times we are concerned about learning from the process but we're not confident of the results we can deliver. This project of Volunteer Management Workshop saw us both achieving both effective learning results from the process and the product. Attendance was awesome and we learnt a lot of insights from the NVPC staff.

Just before I left the retreat to join my parents for dinner in CAPT, Stella gave me a few presents. I was pleasantly surprised! There were stamps-stickers from the Traveller's Notebook series, paper photoframes, a nice polaroid taken of the whole committee and a teddy bear. I can't remember the last time i received so many presents characteristics of my hobbies and past times so I was truly touched to the heart. And of course, a nice handwritten letter from Stella my Boss =] thanks Boss!



As I write this note of thanks-giving, I was reminded of the friends I made from Angsana days - the iCSC gang. haha. It's been two years of friendships in university and we're still going strong. I just wanna say I appreciate the dinner gatherings, out-of-the-blue supper, Legoland outing, must-do group shot during all formal dinners in CAPT and lou-hei during CNY. We've got so many commitments and yet we still managed to come together and celebrate some of the most important moments...thanks guys for dropping by my room after my drama performance. It doesn't matter whether you guys could attend the performance or not, I'm very touched that there's a group of friends who truly understood how much I value Chinese Drama, how much I value this passion and dream of mine. Thoughtful thanks from the bottom of my <3 =D

To all my good friends in NUS - Keep in touch man! Friends come and go, we can't stop time, but there's some friendships that I really value and I hope to grow together with you guys beyond graduation. I will continue to make a conscious effort to meet up every now and then, just like you guys have!

And all the best to everyone for the coming exams period!!!

=D

-KA

幸福一万年

我爱听痴情情歌，不是因为渴望爱情，而是期待能给予对方幸福。
要分享幸福，自己没有足够的情感财富，是不行的。
自己未达幸福就要爱别人，有时会显得力不从心。
幸福了自己，才能幸福别人。
幸福在于自己。

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nk-6AwyrUUY&list=RDNk-6AwyrUUY

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幸福一萬年

詞：易家揚　曲：張敏軒　編曲：黎家斌

愛情的箭　飛出了視線
算算時間　我們也愛過幾年
因為有你　我還有二分之一的從前
那是我心裡　永遠的紀念

第一個夢　第一個句點
第一個人　給了我思念的期限
我只會(能)說再見　可是我看不清楚這世界
我會快樂一點　要自己撐過明天

我願意退回原點　我願意能聽見你幸福一萬年
我願意走得很遠　你今天後不會看見我的臉
我願意忘記你留給我的愛情完結篇
我願意看他帶給你永恆的晴天

你也許聽不見　我要你幸福一萬年

我们可不可以不勇敢

他们说，千寻万寻，千万别纯粹因为自己害怕寂寞，而寻找爱情。拿别人填满自己内心的空虚，是在所有感情和关系当中最自私的行为。

可偏偏，寂寞是许多人寻找爱情的动力。为了解闷，为了遗忘，为了move on。从网络闲聊中不难发现，很多人积极交谈，为的是在短时间内用速递送上的字母虏获对方的芳心。若你抵御得住那暧昧字眼的诱惑的话，用智商多过情感去解读网络交谈，不需要什么人生历练，就能探测出对方的诚意程度。我将这种网络交谈手法称之为text flirting (译：文字调情，但似乎冲淡了flirt字所带来的目的性和攻击性)。

聊天可以不要有居心吗？
认识人可以不要为了瞬间欢乐而认识吗？
谈心情可以不要谈到谈恋爱吗？

就是这些可不可以，可不可以，促使我从脑海的某一个岛屿上摘下一段美丽旋律：

 可不可以不勇敢

歌词
专辑：真善美
演唱：范玮琪
编辑：阿发 afa
你用浓浓的鼻音
说一点也没事
反正有没有痛在
是爱的本质
一个人旅行
也许更有意思
和他真正结束
才能重新开始
几年贴心的日子
换分手两个字
你却严格只准自己哭一下子
看着你努力
想微笑的样子
我的心
像大雨将至
那么潮湿
我们可不可以不勇敢
当伤太重心太酸无力承担
就算现在女人和流行使然
好像什么困境都知道该怎么办
我们可不以不勇敢
当爱太累梦太慢没有答案
难道不能坦白地放手哭喊
要从心里拿走一个人很痛
很难
几年贴心的日子
换分手两个字
你却严格只准自己哭一下子
看着你努力
想微笑的样子
我的心
像大雨将至
是那么潮湿
我们可不可以不勇敢
当伤太重心太酸无力承担
就算现在女人和流行使然
好像什么困境都知道该怎么办
我们可不以不勇敢
当爱太累梦太慢没有答案
难道不能坦白地放手哭喊
要从心里拿走一个人很痛
我们可不可以不勇敢
当伤太重心太酸无力承担
就算现在女人和流行使然
好像什么困境都知道该怎么办
我们可不以不勇敢
当爱太累梦太慢没有答案
难道不能坦白地放手哭喊
要从心里拿走一个人很痛
很难
不勇敢

歌词里有些歌词写得特美的。我相当欣赏姚若龙的写词功力。他常常将简单的大自然融入人物意境，把复杂的情绪内敛地表达出来。间中，也不忘照顾到押韵的重要性。“我的心 / 像大雨将至 / 那么潮湿”。姚若龙还在歌词中反映当下女性渐渐撑起社会半边天而换来的释。虽然没有人要求她们坚强，但社会越来越不能接受懦弱，尤其是女强人，更得常用逞强像化妆似的掩盖脆弱。如此兼顾情感和各个角度的关系，而且又写得贴近人心，突显了姚若龙写实派的风格。优秀写词人完全值得更多人的关注。



他们说，千寻万寻，千万别纯粹因为自己害怕寂寞，而寻找爱情。拿别人填满自己内心的空虚，是在所有感情和关系中最自私的行为。我不怕寂寞，情绪应对自如，找人填内心空虚的角落对我来说是卑鄙的行为，我更不可能会做。我倒是渴望自己能用自己的力量，为他人阻挡寂寞的侵略。一个人也好，一群人也好。我最不忍心看到女生寂寞。

舒服状态

"Yea...so, no relationships for the entire university. And I'm completely fine with that. In fact I don't see a need to have a girlfriend. I like what I'm doing and how I live my life now."

"Now that's pretty good you know. Because that means you're very comfortable in your own skin now and you like yourself. I call that it the most comfortable state."

万和我聊一会儿，让我察觉到原来自己正处于相当舒服的状态。我还以为“不需要爱情”是我自己因为没有爱情而自编抵抗寂寞的思想。其实，真的不是吃不到葡萄说葡萄酸。很多伟大人物为人类创造奇迹时，都是处在内向时刻状态 (introverted moments)钻研、深造的。

我享受现在的我。

人海中遇见你

我现在的状态是：不想进入任何一段感情。我想投入我爱做的事情：写作、学习法文、旅游、设立博客、阅读、努力当上专栏作家。。。等等。我难以想象为了把自己的时间分一半给我的另一半。也许我爱自己的生活多过爱另一个人。

但谈恋爱的滋味是很奇妙的一种感觉。我没谈过，只听过。要我形容的话，恐怕会沦为肤浅肉麻像棉花般无重力的辞令。我用一首歌来代表这美妙感觉：

现在，我唯一渴望恋爱的理由就是为了追求这份“亲爱的我多么幸运”的感觉。若没有轰轰烈烈地谈一场恋爱，我的人生就好似拼图沙滩日落风景但少了人影散步在沙地的那一块：有精彩，没感动。但要是一味只追求着感动而恋爱，仿佛在把恋爱当成专题作业看待，太没诚意了。还未遇见能拨动心弦的人，千万别随便坠入爱河。当心溺毙。哈哈。

绅士道歉

我不是女生，但我对男士绅士行为特别敏感。

我住学院。好久没和室友一起吃饭了。我们约好7点45分一块儿下去。隔天早上，他睡迟了。我们结果7点50分下去。他道歉了。下楼途中，我感觉得到他还稍感内疚，也许因为没有准时赴约久久一次的约会吧。我到儿无所谓，迟到5分钟，我自己也常犯。而且，我一般很容易原谅朋友（友谊至上，不计对错）。我有时还会尴尬于因为礼仪上的不妥而频频道歉的行为，即肉麻，又有损道歉者的尊严。

我拿了马来餐点后，我朋友从远处问我是否要和豆浆，他替我拿。我说好啊。挺贴心的。

他8点30分上课，一般需要8点05分离开。他只有15分陪我。不过，我们聊得还不错。我和他说我在网上取得联系，找到一家公司让我外包专题作业的设计工作，作业总算有些着落，我蛮庆幸的。他和我说，今天是他们医科试验课的最后一堂，将观察刚产婴儿的形态。

这时，和他上同一堂课的同班同学正起身离开。我告诉他若他需要和他们一块儿走的话，就去吧，不必太介意我。他说，没关系，我还可以留多一下。接着，他又兴致勃勃和我说他上星期被女朋友拉去看校园拉拉队比赛，支持她竞赛。拉拉队男女肉体接触频繁，女朋友安抚他说别担心，大多男队友其实是同志。而且，身材壮硕魁梧的他们造成太大的落差了。。。聊到着，我们俩笑翻了~

朋友离开时，正好8点05分。他不折不扣陪了我15分钟。那么有心思的朋友，早上迟到5分钟算得了什么啊。就算不因礼貌上而为那5分钟道歉，我也不会有一丁点的负面情绪。不需要说抱歉的抱歉，用实际行动让对方感觉良好，应该就是所谓的绅士道歉吧。

回想一下，他的早餐是在狼吞虎咽下吃完的，为的，就是能和我多聊一些。我朋友的女朋友，有他，真幸福。

我容易感动的地方，就在于有人如此花心思和我一起共度优质时间。（quality time）